Thanks for the replies, but I'm not closer to understanding the term, the use of the term, or it's concept. Perhaps it implies too much formulaic thinking, and not enough adventure. Or is it just a function of the acceptance, and emphasis on another term,"on in regulation"?
I think you have to look at a completely different area of the game to understand why women and short-hitting men think of those shots as a problem.
Look at the pros. There are a handful of things that make them whine like babies.
1- Par fives they can't reach in two.
2- Par threes that require a wood shot.
3- Par fours that require two very long shots.
What do these have in common?
They all have at least one shot that isn't about making a good score (read that as BIRDIE). The layup on an unreachable par five, and the approach on the other two are almost completely about avoidance, rather than accomplishment.
And those shots, while not irrelevant, are certainly not all that interesting.
To all of those who have said here and elswhere, "Why should everyone think it's their right to get on every green in regulation?" I say it's not about getting on every green in regulation, or even about getting on one.
It's about the thrill of standing there knowing that if you hit two of your best shots, you could get on in regulation. Where I've played the most golf in recent years, one par four is out of reach even if I hit two perfect shots. And I hate that hole every bit as much as a Tour pro hates knowing that his two best shots have no chance of reaching a par five.
So I'd ask, "Why do they think they should have an eagle putt on every par five?"
The same course I mentioned above was built in 1915 and had two par threes that probably required even really good players to hit a wooden club. Imagine how popular that would be with low handicappers today.
Finally, I'll use an example of a friend I used to play with. He was giving my some stick about playing the "Senior" tees that were about 600 yards shorter than what he played. For reference, he was 30-40 yards longer than me off the tee, and about 15 yards longer with every other club. By any reasonable math he was playing a course that was 800-900 yards shorter than the one I played.
So I asked him how he'd feel if, instead of 6400 yards, he had to play 7200-7300 yards every day.
He said "I'd hate it. I might quit."
To which I replied, "There you are."
I understand why the term "irrelevant shots" sound foreign to you and others, and it's probably not all that meaningful. But I'll give it one thing, it's gotten us talking about the problem of making golf "fun" for everyone.
FWIW, I think a big part of the problem is that with modern technology we've arrived at a place where people somehow feel as if golf is easier than it used to be. But it's not, and that disappoints them.
When I learned to play, in the late 50s through the mid 60s, no one had any delusions about how hard it was. And they simply soldiered on with their persimmon woods and blade irons.
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