Jerry,
There is the underlying principle that I cannot grasp or begin to understand.
Playing by the rules is fun. Playing the ball down and embracing that sporting element is fun. Yes, even for recreational golf. Golf is the only sport of which I can think where the rules are so subject to the personal whims of the individual or small group of individuals that the whole concept of the game elements become meaningless. It's fun to extract a ball from a divot. Sure, your score might be slightly higher but it may ultimately not be higher.
The point is more people need to actually try and stop griping. It's not slower, it's not an ordeal. It is fun.
It is when you expect more than your capability, and need to arbitrarily decide how and when to change or modify the game to suit your shortcoming, that I begin to question the motive in the first place. And I think it is reasonable to expect all participants to do their best to play by the rules, especially when it is explicitly stated as a condition for play.
Furthermore, the rules aren't this strict, hand-cuffing, grind of an ordeal.
Don't want to grind out those meaningless 3 footers for a 7 when playing alone? Okay, use Stableford scoring, which is in the rules. Hate water hazards and forced carries and those ilk? Play a forward tee or from an area where those forced carries are taken away. There is nothing in the rules that say you must play from the same set of tee markers throughout the round.