Stephen, thanks for posting this thread, it's interesting to read the responses, especially with your "Thanksgiving" timing, which having met you I'm going to guess is pure coincidence :-)
I imagine it really all boils down to how you look at it. Being an American living overseas I often gaze across the pond and wonder what if it were indeed possible to play all but a few courses based on limited greenfee availabilities. What would the result be. Let's say for instance like a Muirfield does. Something like Tuesday and Thursday mornings when the course is normally empty. (not certain about these days anymore but I played on a Tuesday I believe).
Would the courses be overrun if they put the greenfee at a level like Muirfield has done. 225 GBP or something for a round of golf in the UK is quite high. It's every bit as high as Pebble's 495 USD (to US standards). So let's say some of these courses said, sure for 750 USD (or whatever number) we will allow limited visitors a couple days a week/month. Would they be full? Perhaps but it would certainly stop all but the people with a strong desire or those to which money is no object I suppose. Perhaps that still wouldn't solve your problem.
I believe that all the private clubs no matter where they are have the right to do whatever the heck they want. The members mostly own these clubs and pay for access, flexibility, tranquility, luxury etc. Yet I think like you I also in my heart suffer a little as I can't help but have an overwhelming desire to experience these wonderful places and appreciate what these architects have done for our great game. I also can't admit to wishing they were open to everyone no more than I can wish that at my own club. It wouldn't really be private any longer I suppose, we wouldn't be able to get tee times which can even be difficult as it is on occasion.
I'm fortunate to have been invited to join an amazing private club and I'm grateful for this every minute, (even yesterday during our course committee meeting where we spent 5 hours discussing strong opposition from nature organizations to every single breath we take). I can't help but to have a strong desire to share my club with people very passionate about the game but perhaps I can also hide behind the fact I live in such a remote location and realize that it takes quite an effort to come here and really only those most passionate about golf (or sex, drugs and Amsterdam I suppose) are willing to make the trip. Fact, is somewhere we have to draw the line, even the most gracious of us.
The more I think about it the more I'm grateful golf is the way it is in the US. I love the fact that there are places that are exclusive and mystical that give us something to dream about. Doesn't that honestly add to the sheer enjoyment of seeing them when you do receive that unique opportunity?
Happy Thanksgiving everyone! I always miss the US on this my favorite holiday of the year. In trying to make up for it, I'm celebrating tonight by inviting 25 members of my golf club and a couple friends to a traditional Thanksgiving Dinner. For good order I'm celebrating on Saturday as well with a group of American friends, I think because I miss eating leftover turkey sandwiches for the next couple weeks.
I hope all of you Americans enjoy yours and cherish all those things you are grateful for.