Ok Pat while I respect your opinion I must disagree, at least based upon my limited experience.
I have a very good friend who takes me over once a year for a day at PV, short course, lunch and then the big course. One year I took a friend who is beyond serious, this guy thought and grinded over every shot. A good shot was a fist pump and a bad one ended in a scowl. We both shot 83 and I was as happy as a clam, my friend fretted over the shots left on the course. Very well mannered but he wore his heart on his sleeve. I smiled my way around since I never thought I would ever play the course. A long way from public golf.
Want to guess who I was told was not welcome the next year
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I care what I shoot and try my best, how ever I really enjoy a good walk on a great course. Played Merion last week and bunkered myself to a smooth 86. Still smiling and being a chucklehead. Joked with the caddies and had a great time with my friends. a smooth par from the left rough capped the day, along with too many Pine Valleys.
I think you can care what you shoot, try your best, and still not look like you are passing a kidney stone. Maybe I am too far gone at this point, but I would rather smile my way around a fair course than get a migraine at a great one.
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