Mark
I do not see why you are puzzled; Old Tom was involved in over 100 courses that I have found to date, some 60-70 still in existence. Ernie set the agenda to comply with his schedule giving on average about 10-14 days prior notice although some were less, I do agree.
As for polite, all approaches to all the clubs were very polite. Of course being able to offer more notice would have indeed be great, however my comment was based upon the rather unnecessary reaction I received to the extent that I was happy to omit Muirfield from the list of courses played in memory of Old Tom. Ernie, was able to include it upon his list because he arranged an unofficial game direct with a member of the club.
There was no need for the aggressive reaction, a simple statement would have sufficed, and surely politeness works both ways. You would have thought that suggesting playing as a guest of a Member could have been the way forward, but clearly at that time the offer was not made, which in the end resolved the problem.
From my memory no other course/club refused and all were very considerate.
Melvyn