I joined my first private club way back in the early '80's; I was looking for an affordable way to play a lot of golf, and didn't really want or expect much else. I ended up belonging to several different clubs over the next 30+ years as clubs changed ownership or prices or whatever. When I moved back to NC four years ago, there just weren't affordable private options that worked for me, so I have a "membership" at UNC Finley; good golf course, and great guys to play with, but it's a reduced fee package and in NO way to be confused (which I did at the outset) with a true membership.
And you know what? I miss the heck out of a club. I miss the regular games, I miss the regular groups, I miss sitting around with a pitcher of beer while $3 makes it's way around the table to settle bets; I miss it all, and I miss it a LOT more than I thought I would. It turns out that there ARE other ways to play a lot of golf affordably, but there aren't great substitutes for the other stuff that a club offers. Which is why there are clubs in the first place, I suppose.