Hi Matt:
There are two different threads - Who Are You Guys - you can find them by going to the stats page, under most views. Those are great places to see who's who around here, where people live, etc.
And we do have a pretty strong greater Bay Area contingent. It's been a lot of fun getting together over the years.
BUT - yes it is weird, and most of us have great stories explaining the whys and what fors of these gatherings to our loved ones.
In any case, just monitor here as for big and small outings being planned. I don't think it's at all out of place to ask your questions, nor is it to use the space for working out details of such. Ran has said he doesn't mind, although at times it does bug others... Heck by my reckoning the positives outweigh the negatives by such a large margin it's silly to complain about.
As for access issues, well yes such are touchy. It remains bad form to post something like "I'm heading to Clementon, NJ - where should I play?" But we know you won't do that. Many complain about this place being "golf club access" and well, there surely have been abuses. But just show class and common sense and there will be no problems.
In any case, in the short term best bet is this: attend KP-V! I'd guess most if not all Bay Area stalwarts will attend. Hell we may do some sort of practice outing before then. Then once you attend one of those, other things tend to naturally occur.
The friendships made through this site remain a great strength of it. Great to have you aboard here, Matt.
TH