I almost missed this thread. Dave knows best...
Your caveat that the wife has to get something out of it too in the way of food and song and dance ices the decision. You need to head to Kohler and area for a fine variety of golf, and if you can't get to Summerfest, not to worry. On various weeks in June to August they have German Fest, Polish Fest, Festa Italiana, Irish Fest, and Afro Fest, all with first class ethnic entertainment. Particularly if you like German food, Milwaukee has some of the really great restaurants in the country.
Besides Kohler, many within an hour are Lawsonia, and if you can wrangle a recipricol or invite, Blue Mound and Milwaukee CC. There are many other top courses too. I haven't seen Nicklaus's new "The Bull", but it is getting good reviews. I can think of several budget saver courses that are darn good too, which includes Lawsonia twilight.
BUT, the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence phenomenon. So, I would pick the Bandon-Pac-Trails complex...
go figure....