Pat,
I'm 31, married, w/ 3 kids under 7. Please tell me what it is, exactly, that I don't understand about "today's young couples" and the preciousness of time?
It is quite easy to move along at a brisk, 3 hour pace when someone else is carrying your bag and raking your bunkers. Spend some time at public courses with "average golfers" and you'll see how a 3 hour round finds itself north of 4 hours. Certainly it isn't ideal, but it is better than no golf at all.
Also, I find it funny that you start your post showing concern for "young couples" yet you end it bashing those same couples as part of the "me" generation. You think the entire blame falls on the golfer. Why don't you blame the architects of today's public courses? Many of them are so penal or have so much tall grass or forest 5 yards off the fairway that the average golfer is spent looking for golf balls (either theirs or a playing partner's) on every hole. I played Arcadia Bluffs, a Golf Digest Top 100 public course on Thursday; 5.5 hour round. I played it with just my buddy, and we are known to get around courses in 2.5-3.25 hours (we played 9 yesterday morning in 1.25hrs), we watched the group in front of us spend several minutes on each hole looking for balls. You know what, I don't blame them. They paid $200 to play a course that some magazine tells them is great (it sucks and is a train wreck, by the way) and they are just trying to get around it and have a good time. Nobody has a good time losing a dozen golf balls.
This past Monday, I played a 9 hole municipal course with zero tall grass and 3 of us walked it. The third person was a local guy, bartender, wearing a t-shirt and cargo shorts who had paid $270 for his annual pass. We walked the 9 holes, carrying our own bags, in less than 1.5hrs. We never had to stop to search for last balls.
But, back to my original point: I played 18 at Hidden Creek last October with a friend. The two of us walked 18 in less than 2.75hrs. Then again we played a course with generous fairways and had a caddy who carried our bags, raked our bunkers and bird-dogged all of our errant shots. Fast golf was ideal and enjoyable that day.
So, there are several factors that go in to a 5 hour round besides just the "me" generation (which I always think is funny to hear from someone your age, likely the child of a WW2 vet, and a member of the generation currently in charge of the USA these days making sure they get theirs while my generation is left picking up the bill and cleaning up the spilled oil). Neverthless, if you have time issues at Mountain Ridge then you have membership committee issues and need to kick out the 75 - 90 year old golfers who hit it 10 feet and re-evaluate anyone who you admitted that doesn't understand how to play the game. But don't pretend you are going to solve 5 hour rounds for the average golfer while playing NGLA and Pine Valley with caddies lugging around your clubs. Moreover, don't tell a family man who doesn't play golf several times a week, but rather, once or twice a month, whether he can or cannot enjoy his time on the golf course. Like I said, an extra hour on the golf course is better than an extra hour JUST about anywhere else and sometimes it isn't so bad and sometimes, knowing the responsibilities you have else where in life you find that extra hour of relaxation to be quite precious.