John,
This sounds like the kind of policy that would be in place at a golf-only club -where a family membership may not be an option. If that's the case, I don't have a problem with this guy's kid being excluded. The member is probably only paying dues for himself. Perhaps he should have joined a different type of club if he was looking for full golfing privileges for his son as well.
Cabell:
This course is a golf club only.
I pay double dues. I'm assessed double for everything in the club.
I have a family membership. My wife doesn't play.
My son is twelve and has a low round of 77 there from the men's tees.
He takes his hat off and shakes your hand after you've holed out on 18 and says, "It's been nice playing with you."
He dresses in khakis, a clean golf shirt and polished Foot Joys every time he plays.
He knows when it's his turn to hit and the ball is in the air before you can tell him. He doesn't take practice swings.
We've walked the course together in 2 1/2 hours - for 18 holes.
Total strangers are allowed to tee off at our club at 9:30am on Sat morning even if they hit the ball ten feet and land a piece of sod the size of a small dog twelve. He has to wait 'til 3.
Reread the last paragraph.
I joined the club 16 years ago before my son was born and truly enjoy it except for this glaring weakness in club policy.
He has played with some of the most respected men who post on this board and each has gone out of his way to explain to me how impressed each one of them was with how my son carried himself before, during and after the round.
He has been invited by members to play at Shinnecock, National Golf Links, Maidstone, Olympic, Cypress Point, Monterey Peninsula and San Francisco and has played regularly at Sand Hills since he was 9.
He removes his hat prior to entering the clubhouse for his regular post round drink - Coke with cherries.
He doesn't want to be a pro. He just loves golf.
I wouldn't allow the children to tee off with the boys on Sat morning at 7 am but I would a least give them equal billing as the guests receive - pending a blessing from the pro/starter/representative board member.