Oh Dave, I wish there was such a thing. It would be an interesting language.
The fact remains that these guys are great friends, and have played many rounds of golf together that were always great fun, with everybody ending up happy. A large bet was introduced into one round and one friend ended up pissed. Now you can explain it as miscommunication, oversensitivity, whatever you want... But the simple fact is that if they didn't bet, none of the bad feelings would have occurred.
So I suppose you are right in a sense - the reasons why the bet led to hard feelings were due to miscommunication, oversensitity, etc. But again, take away the bet itself and there are no hard feelings for sure.
So I guess we are looking at this in two different ways.
My take is these guys just should never bet against each other, and certainly shouldn't have that round... yours seems to be that they should have better communication skills and less sensitivity, such that they could bet with no risk to feelings.
And to that end, we are both correct.
But my way is one hell of a lot simpler, no? Especially since they do have fun playing without betting?
TH