This is a wonderful topic, because I am just that sort of person. I'm going to have to give it a good, long think.
I did have an interesting situation with my home web site last year. We had done a "Best Course in Buffalo-Niagara" vote and I indicated that certain courses were simply not of the standerd to make the top three, top five, or top anything. They might be the most fun courses to play, the best clientele courses, the best beer cart, but they would not be on the list for best course.
A couple of them went beast mode on me on Twitter, so I did the rational thing: I went out undercover with some friends, played them, and wrote them up. I stood by our standard for best course, but explained that I had a blast and would certainly return. They didn't know what to say.
I will say that I've played some top-shelf clubs with and without a member as my guide. When playing without a member, I have never felt more distanced. I was not invisibile, but I did not feel welcome. When playing with a member, I felt in place. That may be an obvious thing, but it should not be a standard thing. A staff should make the unaccompanied guest (if they allow such a thing) feel even more special. The accompanying member will take care of that in the other case.