A.G., I feel you. And I'm with you. But you kind of make the point yourself - I know SO MANY golfers who do trips to Pinehurst, even returning time and time again, who just love the place... but who never make it to #2.
I get the comparison to Monterey at least (haven't been to St. Andrews or Kiawah). But the difference in Monterey is that, if you don't play Pebble, you're probably still spending tons of money on lesser courses, or you're just hanging at Pacific Grove and that's not even a little bit the same thing... you end up with kind of a lame trip.
But Pinehurst? You can arrange, like, 10 awesome trips that everybody loves the hell out of without ever touching #2. Go stand next to the Payne Stewart statue, sure. Look at the course and feel the hallowed ground, definitely. Hell, my favorite run of my life might have been the one I took around #2 at dusk the evening before I played it... I kept waiting for somebody to tell me to get the hell off the course, but all I got were a few waves. So run it, walk it, have a drink and stare at it... or play it if it means something to you, definitely!
The dirty truth, though? Tobacco Road is much more of a must-play than Pinehurst No. 2, for the average golfer. That's a course you can have really interesting conversations about while sitting around any 19th hole east of the Mississippi, with people who have played it and have real opinions on it, regardless of how informed we might consider them among the illuminati here. Tobacco Road for me was $75 that bought a great four hours, and opened the door to some of my best golf friendships through the immediate shared experience it allows you to reference with any new golf acquaintance who has traveled even a little bit.
No. 2? I'm thrilled to have played it, but the average guy you drink a pitcher with after a round doesn't want to hear about the course that costs 3x more than everything else in the area. I have a dozen great conversations a year about each of Southern Pines, Mid Pines, and Pine Needles. Two-dozen about Tobacco Road. I can't remember the last interesting conversation I had about No. 2, prior to this thread.