No one is looking for perfection. Just give the short hitting ladies a chance to have a similar experience to what most others will have. Also, why is it that there are almost no examples of the front ladies tees playing shorter for them than the regular tees will play for the men?
What handicap is your wife? And how far does she hit a tee shot normally?
I honestly have trouble believing I've built many courses which she can't get around and enjoy herself. [I have had one or two clients who didn't want that.] That's the main goal here. Arguing about shot values or appropriate tee location is different for EVERY player, man or woman, and I am certain it's impossible to please everyone without an infinite number of tees.
Tom:
My wife is a 25 and hits her tees shots about 150 yds., on average.
I know we can find some common ground here. You can please reasonable people with the appropriate number of tees. That number depends on each hole and each course. Should you try to please everyone? Yes, within reason. I just don't think we've gotten close to trying please those people at the front end. Its been 5+ years since I've been to Bandon, but I do remember that she enjoyed it very much. There are 5 sets of tees on each course there, including a set well within her ability. We will go back there in the future. We played Ganton in 2017. There were some forward tees at about 6,000 yds! Not within her ability. You can understand that she felt like she, and players like her, are not wanted there as there was no reasonable tees from which to play from. Later in the round we discovered some lame green stick markers placed forward of the other tees that we assumed was for those who wish to play Ganton from farther forward. Those tee were not on the scorecard, so were unaware of them until we discovered them. I loved Ganton (tough and as demanding off the tee as any I have played) and wish to go back very soon. My wife doesn't have such fond memories.
My wife is well aware that she is not as proficient at golf as others and that is due to lack of power and, to some degree, a lack of skill. She still loves the game and only asks for a chance to enjoy it as the rest of us do. I don't believe that having more tees takes away from the greatness of the course. To the contrary! The greatness is that it challenges and appeals to all who play it from wherever they choose to play it. If forced to play from one or two tees, one may choose not to play and that is a shame.
I think we will have to agree to disagree. You are the designer of great golf courses and I am just one player who hopes to see, play, and enjoy as many of those courses as possible in my lifetime. My wife will be along side me and I hope that she enjoys them as well.
Cheers