Pat:
In addition to untwisting your knickers, I'd suggest loosening your ascot. Bill had it right in his first post. You've been defending a misconception from the get go.
As for your take on the value of the family tees or markers or whatever you want to call them (as long as you acknowledge we're not discussing anything maintained as a separate teeing area), I am happy to agree to disagree on this one. Just like different folks have different parenting styles, you and I may not agree on the value of delineating a "family course." To me, its a great option for the learning player, one that can be utilized to track progress and to instill a sense of what it will be like to play the official course. I see no downsides, as your option of teeing it from wherever is always available. As far as I can tell, there's no mandate that the family tees are used, its provided as an option.
As for what "real golf" means to a child, I think it exists in teeing it up, playing by the rules, seeing the first well struck iron shot get some air under it, figuring out how to get out of the sand and dreaming of draining a 30 footer on the 18th at the Masters.
As an aside, the program has been around since 2007. I'm curious to know what time from you were discussing when questioning the group about the growth of the game. I'd also ask your question in the converse, who's to say the game wouldn't have grown more if these types of programs hadn't been around longer.
Sven