Mike - I have heard nearly those exact comments from almost every girl I have dated.
If you're not going to make any money, why continue to do it?
I try to play 8-12 events a year. Some years I play a lot of qualifiers and get nothing and others I qualify so I play fewer events because more days are involved. I got away from competitive golf in my early 20's, but rediscovered it while studying for my Masters in London. My visa limited the amount I could work during term, so I started playing events again. I don't know how I stayed away.
I play for three reasons (in no particular order):
1. Access - You get to play great courses under tournament setups. This year alone I will play Doral - Blue Monster, Black Diamond Ranch, Milwaukee Country Club and hopefully a few more if I can play decent in the coming months. Many of the courses are private or expensive, and tournament entry fees are reasonable. For example, I qualified for the FL Am ($100 for qualifier and $125 after qualifying) and made the cut. I got three rounds at Doral - Blue Monster and one at the McLean course in the tournament plus a practice round at each for $25 apiece, those rounds alone would have cost nearly $1000 in the off season. Milwaukee Country Club is one of my favorite courses, but is nearly impossible to access. I paid $125 for the US Am qualifier, and will get three rounds there (36 in the tournament and a practice round). Compared to my friends who play mini tours (some of them are making money) I play much better courses.
2. Competition - There is nothing like competitive golf. I regularly play with a group of professional golfers (PGA Tour, LPGA, and mini-tours), and there are always bets. Those rounds do not compare to playing in a tournament. It's an experience that you cannot create with your regular group. It's stressful, full of pressure, exciting, terrifying, rewarding, and so much more all rolled together. Plus most State Golf Associations really put on great events. There aren’t ropes and galleries, but they really take care of the players. Tournaments are just so much different than just playing a course on a regular day. I have as many great experiences as I do terrible ones, but I keep coming back. There is just something about playing against the best around. I know that I will never make a living playing golf, but I can still play a bit. For those who are under the 1-2 handicap range, it’s tough to find people to compete with. I played in a bunch of friendly events at my club in London, and more often than not I was giving double digit shots. I had a great time with some great people, but competitively speaking it’s no fun giving so many shots.
3. Accomplishment - Just because I'm not going to make any money playing golf doesn't mean I don't want to accomplish something in the game. It won't be anything in the grand scheme of golf, but to see your hard work pay off in tangible results is exciting. I probably spend too much time playing and practicing, but it is what I love to do. The only reason I work out is to improve my game, but it's improving my health. It's a reason to go to the course and really work on something. I had a few years where I just played and it was fun, but something was missing. I wouldn't really practice and could break 80, but couldn't shoot or break par. It wasn't satisfying at all since I knew what I was capable of.
As for the college guys, I have played with a few that have no desire to continue competitive golf after they graduate. Some will get jobs and continue to play events because they love it, and others will turn pro but not make it. By the time they are 28-30, a lot of them will have their amateur status reinstated because they still want to compete.
I will say that I enjoy Mid-Am events the most because the college guys who practice all day are not there as well as the kids who have their parents in tow and take foreeeeeever to play. It gives us with a full time job a little better chance to finish higher on the board.
I can’t speak for others, but these are the reason I continue to play amateur golf.