Patrick,
I have been ignoring most of TEPaul’s creepy emails and messages for years now. On a few occasions I respond to remind him that I want him to stop, but for most part I pay little or no attention to the content of his emails. While blocking TEPaul’s messages seems simple enough, I don’t think it makes sense here. The problem isn’t that I get the messages; it is that he sends them. Obviously TEPaul has some serious problems and needs professional help. While blocking the messages may make me ignorant of the degree of his instability, it will not make him any more stable or any less threatening. So I won’t block his messages. But I have started
keeping an accurate record of any and all unwanted harassment, especially his attempts to create an unacceptable or inappropriate disturbance in my personal or private life.
After all, it is not as if TEPaul is some anonymous spammer.
He is a bitter and unstable creep who has been threatening and harassing me in public and private for YEARS. And lately he seems even less able to control himself, and seems to be losing his ability for rational thought. See for example his belief that he is entitled to harass me without me exposing him for it, and his delusion that his harassment resolve our problems, despite that I have demanded he STOP. Or the fact that even now, I have publicly demanded that he STOP, he continues.
Look, Patrick, I understand this puts you and others in an uncomfortable position because you have some sort of private relationship with this creep, and it is always easier to ignore these things rather than deal I with them. But ignoring his problems and his increasingly unstable behavior is doing him no favors. He needs help, and soon. It is undeniable that he has no respect for (or concept of) the bounds of appropriate behavior, that he has little or no self control, and that he is unable to understand or accept that his actions have consequences. Together this makes for a volatile combination.
Look at his latest rationalization . . .
The large majority of what you are calling my creepy and harrassing emails to you are nothing other than simple cut and pastes of your insulting posts on here---nothing at all more than that. I did not add a single word to the majority of them so if you view all those emails of your posts on here as creepy then perhaps you need to consider what is creepy on here. It was my hope that if I just cut and pasted your posts into emails to you and added nothing else you may begin to recognize just how insulting some of your posts really are. But apparently not even that worked to resolve this. Oh well.Just another effort to avoid responsibility for his actions, but he might actually believe it! If so, then he cannot even comprehend why I find the messages creepy and inappropriate; or that it doesn’t matter that
only some of his most recent emails contain actual threats; or that the fact that he continues to send his bizarre messages (six times yesterday)
despite my many demands that he STOP is in and of itself is extremely creepy. And what kind of a psycho cuts and pastes his own posts and mine and sends them, interspersing them with an occasional threat?
This isn’t a one-time thing or a simple misunderstanding. It is an ongoing issue and a continuing pattern of behavior with TEPaul. A few months ago it was his sleazy and barely veiled threatening messages daring me to come to Philadelphia so he and his buddies could teach me a thing or two. Before that there were the multiple times he told me that he wouldn’t rest until he drove me from the website. And the promises to continue to harass me – by whatever means he wanted -- until I was gone from the website for good. And the “Philadelphia Possee.” And the lies about the Canadian “scholar.’ And the lies about Merion’s committee chairs supposed thoughts on my early research. And the defamatory rumors about things entirely unrelated to this website. And numerous other inappropriate and threatening messages and comments designed to chase me away. And similar behavior directed to others.
I am here to discuss golf courses, but that shouldn’t entail having to put up with harassment from an unstable creep who cannot control himself.
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A few more passages from earlier this year, this time IM’s edited to only show my requests to be left alone and his responses:
"TomPaul,
Please stop contacting me. I have no interest in communicating with you."
I couldn't possibly care less what you have no interest in! . . . I think you need my constant and personal attention.
"Don't contact me again Tom."
Or What?
"No more messages Tom. I mean it."
Or what?
Come on tell me; I actually love threats from the likes of the David Moriarty's of life. . .