Bradley,
I'm personally not offended at all, but you bring up an important issue.
Communication between the superintendent and membership is key. And really, that is the sheer beauty of superintendents posting to this site, even if it is a super from a course on the East Coast talking to a member overseas. I think most superintendents who are involved here understand and are respectful of the jobs of our fellow supers, and we all know what kind of stress, toils and issues pop up from time to time, but we all also like to take ownership of the maintenance industry as a whole. And we can only better our image and golfer understanding by openly discussing and educating on the topics that will make us better, perhaps like "firmer and faster" conditions, less total inputs, labor savings ideas, effective time management strategies, etc. etc.
Personally, I wouldn't mind a member/patron of my course asking another super about something he's seen while playing my course. BUT....this is because I go out of my way to make sure my patrons know that I can be easily approached, and am readily available to answer questions. So a golfer can go ask another super, or non-super, get information, then come back to me and say "Hey, I heard it's possible to do this and that.....why don't we try that out here?" Sometimes, it's a decent idea, and the perspective from the outside is what we both needed to find a way to take our course to the next level. Other times, it's the PERFECT opportunity for me to clue the golfer in on the differences between our course, and our operating budget, crew size, site limitations, etc. and perhaps those of the course where he got his information.
Often times I find that if I get too many compliments, especially on things I know aren't great, it either means (1) the golfers are indeed getting complacent with the course and conditions, which is not good for anyone in this competitive environment or (2) the golfer hasn't really gotten out to see any other courses recently and merely judges what he sees daily against the other days he plays at the same course. Sometimes I fall into this trap too, and feel like we are looking/playing pretty dang good, then I go to play at the course next door, and realize we could still stand to take it up a notch. Likewise, there are times, especially during this winter off-season, when I may feel like we don't look so hot, but I go across town and see what some other courses are dealing with and realize that we're doing a pretty good job considering the time of year and weather.
All in all, I would just say that I agree with you to some extent Bradley, that supers posting to this site should be mindful to keep their tips, advice and recommendations based strictly on their site (because what works for them may not work for someone else) or keep them VERY general, such that the general idea and concept can be used almost anywhere.
I think this thread is sticking to that right now......it seems most recommendations for attention to detail are good training/management oversight and, if possible within a higher budget, more labor/time dedicated specifically to this task.