M. Shea,
I haven't played Quogue Field Club. Must be a nice place.
With respect to Friar's Head, I don't love every hole. The former potato field is relatively pedestrian land for golf. It doesn't matter.
Friar's Head has ambience in spades. The practice facilities, the flow of golf around the course, the speed of play, the walkability, conditioning, even the temporary clubhouse and staging area...a wonderfully designed private club.
Sand Hills and Friar's Head are pretty close to a tossup for me, even though Sand Hills wins on a hole by hole analysis, not to mention a beauty contest. Sand Hills wins every beauty contest, except maybe against Cypress Point and one or two others.
My favorite holes at Friar's Head today are 2, 5, 8, 13, 14, and 15. #15 is one of the great modern par 4s. This year, I got above the hole in regulation and three-jacked it.
One last comment about the Sand Hills/Friar's Head comparison, which would make a reasonable standalone thread. The creation of Sand Hills is almost completely dependent on the final routing. Very little construction took place. At Friar's Head, the land was very good, but still required more earthmoving and "active" golf architecture to arrive at the final product. These are distinctly different skill sets. Which skill is the most impressive, the most admirable?