Bob Huntley:
Your comment:
Margaret, Assume that a violation such as this occured on the eighteenth hole of a match that was all square. Would the official have not interfered in the outcome of the match? I know that many of us would remind an opponent to replace a moved ball marker, however a Smiley Quick would have told the official to shut up.Your point is very well-taken. I may have been a bit too brief in describing the situation that angered my husband.
I'm not a rules official and I have no idea what is permissable in such situations. Further, I do not think it is the responsibility of a rules official to "educate" during an event they are officiating.
In my husband's situation (and I'm saying what my husband said the official said) -- after the rules official advised my husband of the penalty assessed and why, the rules official additionally commented, that for a minute, he held his breath and thought my husband was going to correct himself -- said that he was beginning to feel bumed-out that he wouldn't be able to make the ruling.
THAT little "PS comment" is what sent my sweet husband into orbit -- the "I want to
GET somebody violating a rule" attitude. After the "postscript" comment, that rules official went into a diatribre re: "enforcer" not "educator" -- blah, blah, blah...
In
THAT case, if the rules official had just kept his mouth shut after assessing my husband with the penalty and explaining it, I
know my husband would
not have blown-up. Certainly, my husband would have been annoyed with himself for making the error, but he would
not have gotten angry with the official for doing his job. IMHO, the rules official in the situation with my husband was not too bright and a jerk!
Hopefully, he was just having a bad moment/day.
Maybe JohnV can advise what is acceptable for a rules official in the situation you described.
As a player -- in a tournament or not, if I thought someone in my group were about to make a rules violation, I would speak up. If, as a result of speaking up, I ultimately lost by strokes = to a penalty that may have been assessed -- so be it. Honesty, courtesy, among other values are central to the game of golf and are among the reasons I love the game!