French Laundry is wonderful and Tommy's right, though I'd call it the Cypress Point of restaurants.
Only thing is reservations are BRUTAL. If you want a table in the next few months, you're already too late. Oh you can luck into a cancellation, as a common friend here once did... But it's unlikely.
And Tommy's right also that it's VERY VERY expensive.
Buchon is way way better in the bang for buck category. It's not exactly cheap, but way closer to reality.
As for the rest, well.. us locals are lucky to be able to go there at a whim, so our priorities are different. For visitors, Tommy's right, it ought to be all about wine. That being said David does assess the courses right on... If one is there often or for a long time and thus open to golf, I'd say priority would go:
1. Mayacama (if you can get access)
2. Sonoma GC (if you can access or are staying at SMI)
3. Windsor GC (public)
4. Chardonnay GC (public)
5. Silverado (make it #1 if you are staying there)
All the rest fall below.
TH
ps - Ted - have fun! Kinda hot this time of year, but you'll manage. If you have time check out a lesser-known winery in Diamond Mountain area called Reverie... great people, great fun, great wine. Ask for Norm Kiken.