Garland:
Gotcha. Yes, if river rafting is the goal, then Bandon is the call. I'd just have to guess that wives of golfers who are river-rafting aficionados themselves are a unique breed.
And I understand that some don't like cities. But do you consider the entire area from Monterey to SF and beyond one big "city"? I'd say it does have some natural scenic value. Just a little.
As for wine, the point is that a little over an hour north of SF, they could find themselves in Napa or Sonoma. No offense, but for wine aficionados this is Cypress Point and Southern Oregon is Bayonet (a fine public golf course).
Hey, I love Southern Oregon - I have relatives in Grants Pass, I've done rafting on the Rogue River several times, it's great fun. The coast is beautiful, also.
I'd just have to guess the vast majority of visitors would prefer Carmel-SF-Napa. That is unless they are 100% river rafting only. In that case, while they still could find some fun around here, well, the Rogue River would be better.