Given that it is November, I would fly into Providence and drive to Newport. I have played Newport National in the late fall, and it is spectacular. You will also get bonus points with your wife—the shops and restaurants and mansions seem to be without end.
You could also hop in the car and head to Plymouth, a little over an hour northeast of Newport. Try Waverly Oaks or one of the Pinehills courses.
A little over an hour northwest, in Sutton, Ma, is Blackstone National, a very fun Rees Jones course that would be spectacular in the fall.
If you hugged the coastline, you could try Shennecossett, a good Ross course that has been redone by Silva or Mungeam (can't remember). A very inexpensive muni. You could also try Lake of Isles, the Foxwoods course by Rees Jones that is receiving a lot of press. I haven't seen it 9there are two courses—one private, one public), but I've heard some negative comments. And it is brutally expensive.
You can't go wrong with the Vermont recommendations—unless it snows.