It reminds me of a round I played soon after I took up the game. I was paired up with a guy about my age (early 30s). I noticed that before every shot from the fairway he'd bend down and put his hand on the ball; I assumed he was just flicking off a little mud or grass or a fly, or maybe lining up the logo. But as the round progressed it became clear that his approach shots were by far the best part of his game -- the quality of those shots were much better than any of his drives or chips or recoveries. I started getting closer and paying more attention, and soon saw that what he was really doing was *teeing up* every shot. I mean, literally -- using a tee!
"Well", I thought to myself, "I suppose he's only cheating himself".
But I realized right then and there that the true 'spirit of the game' was actually whatever any individual golfer wanted it to be, i.e. it's the spirit of the their game.
I realized that my romantic notions are my own -- and need to be their own reward.