I live in Carrollton, a Dallas suburb. I can't help with the private courses, as I've not been on any of them other than Stonebridge Ranch. The Pete Dye course at Stonebridge is great fun, though, if you can talk your way on.
I like all the Jeff Brauer courses in the area, among them, Indian Creek (Creeks Course), Tangle Ridge, Trails of Frisco, West Ridge, Ridgeview Ranch, and my favorite, Cowboys Golf Club. Cowboys is a bit pricey without one of their periodic $99 coupons, but that includes all the food and non-alcoholic beverages.
I play Coyote Ridge a lot, but it's not a great course, though well maintained and usually firm and fast.
Try also Tenison Park (Highlands) in Dallas, lots of fun, but very busy.