In 1966 I went to Yankee Stadium to see a Yankees-Red Sox game with 3 college friends, two of whom were Sox fans. In stark contrast to today, Yankee Stadium had about 3000 people in attendance (it was a Wednesday afternoon game, early in the season, and the Yankees were over the hill and destined for the cellar that year.
Roger Maris, a shadow of his 61 in 61 season, was playing right field for the Yankees and my two friends rode him unmercifully for 8 1/2 innings. We were sitting down the right field line and the stadium was so empty you could here everything.
I don't remember the exact score but the Sox were comfortably ahead, and after they went out in the top of the 9th Roger, on his way back to the dugout, held up his glove and gave my friends the middle finger salute. Which of course just made all of us laugh hysterically and provided a lifetime's memory.
I didn't see the Toms incident on TV but it seems like the fan deserved what he got and probably has more respect for Toms 'lowering' himself to his level. So what's the big deal?