Dear Ben
You are entirely missing the point, and now are doubling down on that misunderstanding.
Please re-read once again more carefully.
To attempt to help you, I introduced the two polarised ends of the debate, and noted in parentheses to the second that in my (limited) experience that one side tends to come towards the other with more knowledge and exposure (aka "experience").
There was absolutely no attempt on my part to dismiss, that is your defensive mis-reading.
Furthermore, it is not to say the other (experienced) side cannot learn from their observations and move their way (as I acknowledged there may be some balancing merit on this subject, and so did Tom)
The point is that the truth (as in most things) is somewhere between polarised views, and that the GCA fluxes (as it has across many years) between the two, such are fashions it has ever been thus. There is no right or binary choice here. Hard used to be called Good, now it is Fun that is lauded.
At the genuine risk of raising your (& others') trigger finger once again I do think it interesting that the "Templating" and geometric shaping of CBM, and even more so Raynor and Banks was even more exaggerated for the fact that neither Raynor nor Banks (and I am happy to be corrected on this by those that know more about these great men) ever actually saw (i.e. had "experience" of) any of the "Ideal Holes" used by CBM for NGLA, or elsewhere.
As such these holes seemingly became self-informing parody's (albeit great ones, and there is no criticism here as I am really quite fond of the variety, and respect their place in the game fully) with less than natural shaping to their surroundings (the advent of the steamshovel also compounding things).
These "templates" were seemingly imposed upon a suitable parcel of land, and the hole's strategy was not extracted nor discovered from the same (as a novel hole design would have been).
There seems, to the somewhat uninitiated observer, to be some sort of constant one-upmanship in each version of the templates, making each more and more "obvious". That may also be the case with modern renovations of the same, and perhaps someone with a chronological view across all their work can hopefully provide support or rebuttal of my conjecture here.
Would these template "ideal" holes across the US have been more "subtle" if they (Raynor & Banks) had seen the more restrained originals?
So in essence, I am not at all surprised that NGLA struck your (by your own description) non-architecture friends as exciting, especially from the tee.
For NGLA was and is a course specifically designed to be full of the "greatest hits" strategically, thus it was "dialled up" like no other course globally, probably ever. That is of course the case in regard to the tee-shots too, CB actively sought out challenging holes in their entirety.
I have some understanding of the potential negative reaction to such "dialling-up" as James Braid was often (& still by some) accused of beign too penal in design when in fact he was unrelentingly strategic, but in a really "dialled-up" sense for the Open Championship venues (& other courses of that desire) he remodelled/rebunkered (e.g. Troon, Carnoustie, Deal, Prestwick, Littlestone & Hunstanton).
If really looking for a course with such unrelenting diffculty and challenge from the tee as NGLA it might be worth considering Carnoustie (in a normal and NOT the exagerrated 1999 Open deep rough set-up).
So you can have too much of a "good" thing and there is a balance or tipping point at which some may recoil.
That is the point several have been trying to make, respectfully...