Question. Do I just give up on him, keeping in mind he sets up lots of our games? So I'd need to find a new group. Do I speak with him about my problem, or just admit it's my problem and not his?
At almost 80 years of age, you have certainly earned your right to express how golf can be played in your group. Express it over a beer, and you may be helping your friend. My guess is - he is challenged mentally by the aging process.
I walked and carried yesterday in the heat and humidity of NYC. On the 16th hole, it hit me. I may have to move to a push cart soon.
I've had the conversation -- not easy for me to do. He said he appreciated me bringing this to attention and that he'd try to get things under control. Hope it works out.