I understand imposing your music on unwilling others is lack of respect. And every private club can set its own dress code, and members and guests should respect that. But if you're walking around grousing about a guy's shaving habits, that's lack of respect too. "Allow" the look? Does any club really have (or need) rules specifying how often a man must shave?
Back (somewhat) to the Custodians theme of the thread: "A club that emphasizes the simple game golf beats one which pursues the trappings of status."