Eric, Jim and Jeff
All of us could play Tiger or Rory and some of us have played and beaten players 10+ shots better than ourselves, we just wouldn't beat them very often. If I play DJ on the course of his choice and if he gives me 18 shots I have a good chance of beating him, but do you think he would care if I shot 83 and he shot 66? I would never say I "beat" him. I've given 18 shots and lost handicap tournaments to hackers because most of them can throw in a gross 85 from time to time. Did he (or she) "beat" me if I shot 68? No way.
More importantly, how do you get players to continue to try to improve their game? By handing them crutches on the first tee (or when they sign the card)? Not! Enjoy the game however you play, but don't think you have "won" a match or a tournament just because you were the best hacker on the course on the day. Cash the check, by all means, but don't pat yourself on the back for being an average player, and most of all, ENJOY! and always try to improve.
rfg
PS--I know that many people on this forum disagree with me on this, but cést la vie.
R