R:
I'm not sure what was there to be insulted about.
I hope you won't be shocked to learn that our office is certainly NOT flooded with offers to design new courses. Those are rare opportunities in this era, and we are very grateful when we have the opportunity.
I have always been somewhat picky about which jobs I take on. I only want to take on a job where I think we have the chance to reach the client's goals, and where we can have fun doing it, and grow a bit in the process. Those criteria disqualify a surprising number of jobs. If the client is calling me because they want a top-100 course, but they don't have the right property for it -- or if I think they themselves will get in the way of achieving that goal -- then I'm not going to pursue it. [Note the phrasing of that last part -- I can work with owners who want to be very involved, but there is a line they shouldn't cross.] But it doesn't disqualify doing a public course in the city [check out Common Ground in Denver, on your way to Dismal], or a project with a small budget. In fact, Dismal River is one of the least expensive courses we've done, and I just got home from another -- Barnbougle Dunes.
Regarding your last question, generally, when I'm playing another course I judge it on the basis of what is there, and try not to think about how I would have done it differently. Sometimes that's more difficult -- the hardest is to go to a place like Erin Hills, where I'd done a much different routing for the same piece of property, so it's almost impossible not to think about what they could have done differently -- but I do try.
One of the hardest questions for me to answer is what are my favorite courses of my own design. The only answer that counts is when you've played the course enough to get over being its designer and to start to critique it as a player yourself -- and it's hard to get to that point, when every time you come back to play, the owner and the superintendent and the members are asking you to look at details of the design or maintenance. That's why I went back to Barnbougle last week -- just to play. And it was great fun.