Patrick:
#1 - Golf clubs that conform to social norms of 50 years ago will perish. Today's younger people and many of us in our 50's (me included) think a lot of these sort of things are foolish. I joined a club for recreational purposes, not for debutante balls.
#2 - In my mind, in today's economy, if you have the credit rating, the funds, and the love of golf, you're in. With a big majority of clubs having membership gaps, I don't know how else you can operate.
#3 - Women in old-style clubs are usually thought of in terms of the 50's - housewives that just want to play bridge and golf on "Ladies Day". Today's women want equality. Our club has open tee times for all, and we've gained members because of it. Our Women's member-guest took place on a Sunday, and I don't think a single guy complained. It was a complete success for the club.
#4 - I meant to portray the need for a family environment. The reason juniors aren't becoming members (IMHO) is tied to the above. For example, after I was engaged, I wanted to "up" my membership to a family membership, but I was told, in no uncertain terms that I was not allowed to do so. And I was even getting married at the club.
#5 - So many clubs are wedding factories and get funding by monthly food mins. I'm all for supporting the club, but it's a tough sell for a $12 hamburger when you can get something better down the street for 1/3 the cost. Give me a value for my limited dollars, and I'll buy your food - happily.