It was much easier to call Tom an idiot to his face and just keep on working on the analysis of the work. If I said most of the things I said to him today on this site I would be banned ! If Kyle were as esteemed on this site as Tom is I would have abused him as well.
You hit on one of the few negatives to this site, and the internet at large - it is really difficult to get down and dirty without being able to look the other person in the eye. You can't see body language, you can't understand tone as effectively, etc, etc.
I got in a big argument on this site with Pat Mucci about 5 years ago, over Torrey Pines greens. Pat is one of the posters on here I respect most. We were fortunate enough to meet face to face at the Baltusrol get together - someone had posited in the thread in question that the meeting might get ugly. When I approached Pat, he had a huge smile on his face and we cleared the air in about 2 seconds.
That's why I encourage everyone who has not done so to meet other posters - go to official GCA events, unofficial, take people up on gracious invitations, do everything you can to meet someone, anyone, everyone. Have a beer and get both friendly and argumentative!