Melvyn,
I guess we should continue the discussion by defining what we think are deep bunkers? We might be talking the same thing, if you call shallow 1' deep and too deep 10' deep. Then we agree. But, if you think a fw bunker at 3-5' deep, depending on distance to the green is too shallow, and think most fw bunkers ought to be like Hell Bunker at TOC, then we disagree.
But, in general, I did try to define what I think bunkers are for - to make the game more interesting. I think you agree in general, even if we disagree on how deep bunkers should be to accomplish that goal.
My simple, straightforward question to you is if you want bunkers to make players think, does a bunker that automatically cost you a stroke (or more) create more interest in a golf match (whether playing or watching, whether match play or stroke) than one that allows the possibility of recovery to the green?
My take is that it has nothing to do with coddling golfers as you suggest. It is all about making each hole interesting in context of a golf competition, not some metaphor for life. And, I happen to believe that a bunker that offers a good possibility - but not certainty - of escape does that best. And, that usually puts bunkers in the moderate depth category of 2-5 ft in the fw and shallow enough that you can see out of by the greens.
And as a practical matter, the fw bunker that accomplishes that is somewhat tuned in terms of depth and steepness of face to accomplish that goal. In general, if the recovery for an average player would be with an 8 iron, the fw bunker can be deeper than if with a 3 iron. And the face can be steeper - just under the approximate 40 degree loft of the 8, vs just under the typical loft of a 3 iron. Given the free form nature of bunkers, that will vary with the ball position in the bunker.
Granted, the ground the bunker occupies might make it steeper naturally. In those cases, the placements of other bunkers would be considered. Generally, if I end up with a deep bunker in the fw LZ on one side, I give wider berth on the other, with wider fw, shallower bunkers that might present a better miss, or no bunkers at all. If I want bunkers on both sides of the fw, I generally make them shallower than if on one side only.
So, as Jeff G says, yes it all depends. But at some point, when building a bunker by importing soil because no suitable hazard exists naturally, I tend to think about how deep they ought to be "in theory."