Rick:
I have tried a few strategies on the spouse/golf trip.
1. Early morning sprint around the course. At Rio Rico in Arizona - I played every day in a cart before the first tee time. I played in under two hours and had the rest of the day to do whatever the family wanted to do.
2. Spend the week practicing and play one memorable course. I've done that at Hilton Head, Fort Myers Fl, and at Poipu resort in Kauai. Your spouse hardly knows you are gone if you practice for an hour or two a day and, if I have not played much, I enjoy it about as much as playing.
3. Sprinkle golf in with a bigger trip. I did this in Australia. It worked pretty well but left some lingering issues when my wife found out we were not going to the barrier reef and instead were going to Tasmania. I also did this in Las Vegas on a four couple trip.
4. I have also accompanied my wife on trips she has taken for work and played all day and had dinner at night.
But the best strategy of all --- THE MAKE UP TRIP
This is my go to strategy.
Schedule a separate pure golf trip with golf partners shortly before the family/spouse trip. On the golf trip, have a great time and play as much as possible. On the spouse/family trip - make it one you are excited about and do not mention golf.
The result - your spouse is happy because any lingering distaste about you golf trip is replaced with anticipation of and memories of your great second trip.
The best part of the plan - you are a double winner. You have gotten to take two great trips.
Some combos that have been brilliant for me:
Scotland/Telluride Film Festival
Scotland/Europe
Pheonix/Sundance Film Festival
New Mexico/Manhatten
Ireland/Switzerland
Las Vegas/Nassau
Fort Myers/The Big Island
Tucson/Guatemala
No need to go on such big ticket trips to make the strategy work.