Kelly,
We have found the same issue when proposing a new set of forward tees at existing facilities. Again, it is the few women players who are single-digit handicaps who object. While we argue that nobody was forcing them to play from the forward set on account of their gender, they understand that when in handicapped tournaments, the lowest common denominator will win out, and they will have to play from the most forward set of tees. Still, during their regular play (vast majority of rounds), they are free to elect which tees to play from. Not sure if they feel be-littled by the prospect of shortening the course, or are gluttons for punishment, but I feel giving them an option as to which tees to play from is a step in the right direction.
Personally, when competing in similar events at my club, we play from the 3rd longest set of tees (4 tee set-up). Sure, I'de rather play from 6,800 yds. as opposed to 6,000 yds., but I know that going into the event and cannot therefore complain, and to be frank, it can be a nice change from the usual routine.
TK