Jeff
"Downtown" Bandon is a classic Gertrude Stein's "There's no there, there," but it is a helluvalot better experience than spending any time (particularly dinner) at the resort than mingling with 200+/- sweaty sweater testoseronic wannabees. I'm sure your wife can find a decent place for bed and dinner and afters while you and Sam play.
Rich
PS--getting to the headline of this thread, if I were you I'd play Trails first, as it is sublime, and all the others are excellent but Scottish/Irish wannabe's. As they say in the UK, "compare and contrast."
rfg